December 20, 2008

Are You On The Verge?

Are you getting teary-eyed in the grocery store when "Joy To The World" muzak plays ? Seeing commercials on TV - a smiley "family" exchanging gifts in front of a roaring fire. Wishing you had that perfect, unproblematic family.  Hearing Christmas carols being played endlessly on most radio stations.  When is it all too much ?

There is an older man who lives in my neighborhood.  He walks passed my place at exactly the same time every morning.  Where does he goes? He never has visitors, only goes out for his walk in the morning and to go to the local grocery store.  There is no existence of Holiday decorations at all.

Should I leave a small gift on his doorstep?  He has been my neighbor for almost 3 years. Or does he not celebrate the Holidays because he doesn't believe in them or maybe he doesn't have family, or are they disconnected.  Maybe he doesn't have anyone to celebrate them with and its easier to let it slide by quietly.  Has no-one invited him to a Holiday dinner.  Would leaving a token of the Holidays remind him that he is completely alone.  Why is he alone ?

And what about the woman who hasn't been able to find a job in over a year ?  I asked if she was going to see either of her daughters (who live locally) for Christmas?  "Maybe" she said, "I don't know".

The Holiday Season is bittersweet in so many ways.  Its is the one of the saddest and loneliest times of the year, for more people than we all know.  A time when people who had or are dealing with heartache, loss, tragedy in their lives have those feelings at the forefront.  When some would probably want to curl up in a ball and not deal.  Military families wondering if their sons and/or daughters will be celebrating with them next year.  Gaps around the Holiday table, family members who are out of touch.  

Am I the only one that feels like this?  Am I? Let me know either way.  Are you someone who has had tragedy but chooses to forge ahead with your Holiday head held high?


soodie :: said...

I do! But unfortunately I learned as a small child... repression repression repression. Bury it down and it will, eventually, go away....

I miss the family members I was once surrounded by who have now passed. And I feel horrible for friends who have lost loved ones. The second half of 2008 has been filled with many sad losses.

MIMILEE said...

My family has suffered through some real tragedies in the past three years with the loss of three precious young people....two were in auto accidents and one died of an illness. This time of the year does make it difficult , but we are true believers in a Sovereign God who does not make mistakes. He will continue to make a way for us and we know that, but still you have to go through the grieving period . May we just keep our eyes on the Lord and know He has a plan for us.
God Bless you and Have a Merry Christmas.......and a prosperous New Year!

Charlie said...

Soodie: It will be lovely to see 2009 in. Here's to love and happiness in the new year. x

Charlie said...

MimiLee: Thanks for dropping by. I am so sorry to hear about your losses. Merry Christmas and a wonderous New Year to you too.