September 13, 2008

Re-Thinking The Whole Blogging Thing - Are You "Cyber-Cool" Enough........



It sounded like such a fun thing to be a part of, and research - 
"The Blogging World".

But I've realized very quickly there are barriers installed, at every turn.  Having read copious blogs over the last few years, I've realized, I am not the only one that feels like this.  This IS a popularity contest.  Its a popularity contest, where you have to prove you have something to offer, before being included.  There is a clique - its sort of weird really.  A cyber-clique.

How can it be a popularity contest when people are sharing their lives and thoughts.  Its almost vulgar really.  People's lives are being  judged.  Are you cool enough! How about a new, fresh perspective!

Hoping the experience gets better.  Thought the entertainment and fashion industries were intense, but "they're" a walk in the park, compared to this!

And yes, as a matter of fact, I am standing on a soap box, as I write this.  But I've got to be honest, and expose all this, for what I think it is. 

Cartoon courtesy of The New Yorker.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

here, here! its going to have to change.

the fakes will leave, the authentics will stay.

The Storialist said...

This is interesting! Though I totally get where you're coming from, I think so much depends on what type of blog you have (the concept).

Smart writing, frequent updates, and timely content go a long way. I'll definitely check in on this blog.

Thanks so much for your comment about my recent poem.

Deb said...

You're completely right---the net like all social formats devolved into cliques....but you have to keep going at it. Designers in partuclya seem all about clique-ness. Your blog is terrif and I love it, btw. And just because you have no comments doesn't mean you're not being read.....

Charlie @ So Lovely said...

Hi everyone - thanks for your wonderful, encouraging comments. I've put my soap box away! Onward and upwards.

soodie said...

hi so lovely, i am thrilled you publicly addressed your thoughts. i've been feeling the same way and began to abandon my late night-check-in-routine with many of these blogs. blah blah blah is all i felt i was reading. will start up my routine again with yours. thanks so much.

sfgirlbybay said...

i see your point, but i often think the people who create these cliques are the same people who looked up to cheerleaders in high school, without any apparent good reason, and often not the writers of the blogs at all.

i've struggled every day to try and put out something different, something people will get inspiration from, or even a laugh, and it is not easy to come up with something every single day. but i do my best, because i love it, and it's my job. and i don't like the cliques either.

i say, just keep doing what you love and makes you happy, and people who relate to what you share will follow. your blog is lovely and i'm glad i discovered it! have fun!!

Charlie @ So Lovely said...

sfgirlbybay: that made me laugh - the cheerleader thing. So perfect. Thanks for your comment, I really like your perspective and your "above the fray" blog.

corine @ hidden in france said...

Great post. I began writing my thoughts here... and ended up with a whole post. Check it out on my blog.

See, you're already popular with me :-) sorry.

Design Lovely said...

I just found you via Hidden in France and I am so happy someone feels the same way I do. I take a lot of pride in my blog and I feel inadequate at times when other blogger’s don’t want to exchange blog banners with me or comment back on my blog. I feel like I am not doing something right and I think it might just take time before my little blog gets noticed. Thank you for not making me feel alone on this subject.

Charlie said...

Hi Design Lovely: just keep going for yourself. I have learnt that. My blog initially started as a love for design but now I just post whatever I feel like. Like-minded people will find you. It takes awhile but as long as you are true to yourself and not trying to conform to what others are doing, you'll have a great time.

The Fab Miss B said...

I think anyone who blogs with an aim to be taken seriously has to deal with this. It can be frustrating and intimidating. But at the end of the day, I blog because I enjoy it and because I like having a record of my thoughts that I am accountable to. (I feel responsible for keeping it up after three whole years!) I'll be interested to see how your journey unfolds.

Best wishes,

Becky

Charlie said...

Hi The Fab Miss B: thanks for stopping by. Wow - 3 years, thats admirable. I completely agree. I think that every blog goes through its initial growing pains and then finds its own groove. There is enough room in cyberspace for everyone.